24
Jun

Lessons of Love

   Posted by: abelle   in let's 'weigh' awhile, relationship101

Another great story for you, people! ;)

My husband is a Bank Examiner by profession. I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit that I am getting tired of it.

My reason for loving him before has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness. I am sentimental and extremely sensitive when it comes to relationships and feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy.

My husband is my complete opposite. His lack of sensitivity and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage have disheartened me about love.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce. “Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired; there are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered.

He kept silent the whole night. He seemed to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times. My feeling of disappointment only increased - here was a man who can’t even express his predicament. What else can I hope from him?

And finally he asked me, “What can I do to change your mind?”

Somebody said it right; it’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered, “Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind. Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?”

He said, “I will give you my answer tomorrow . . . . .” My hopes just sank by listening to his response . . . . .

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes . . . . .

“My dear, I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further . . . . .”

This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading . . . . .

“When you use the computer you always mess up the software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.

“You always leave the house keys behind, thus, I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.

“You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city; I have to save my eyes to show you the way.

“You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month; I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

“You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.

“You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs so I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand… and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face . . . . .”

“Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die . . . . .”

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting . . . . .
and as I continue on reading . . . . .

“Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk . . . . .”

I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread . . . . .

Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone . . . . .

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9 comments so far

 1 

loved this one! :)

June 25th, 2008 at 1:16 pm
 2 

Very Smart Decision. After 31+ years of marriage I can tell you that this man will never grow tired of loving you, stay the course.
You will get as much as you give.

June 26th, 2008 at 8:13 am
abelle
 3 

Rocks & Mamaflo - A very nice story, isn’t it? Just a little something for us wives to reflect on ;)

June 26th, 2008 at 9:05 am
 4 

Very sweet story…is it true? Very well written…

June 26th, 2008 at 2:28 pm
 5 

wow. what a touching story and very well written indeed.

I’m still a teenager and I understand how women long for reassurances every now and then. But, I guess, you’d have to cherish men’s small gestures. It’s their way of expressing their love, right?

NO wine-and-dine date could TOP what you’re hubby did TO WIN YOU ALL OVER AGAIN!!!

June 26th, 2008 at 7:31 pm
abelle
 6 

Patty & Procne - This is just one of the beautiful stories I read somewhere, and which I collected. I am posting each of them every now and then so please come back more often. I like sharing wonderful things here for us to reflect on. These stories somehow ‘pinch’ us back to reality. And I’m glad you liked this one. ;)

June 26th, 2008 at 9:05 pm
 7 

Amazing Story… I am publshing this story on my blog and on my websbite !! Thanks and yes I am a regular vistor !!

June 27th, 2008 at 3:39 pm
 8 

Oh. I thought this was your story, but still it’s a great find.

And yes, I like visiting your blog. Also, I just found out from your recent entry that you’re a Filipino as well. :D

June 27th, 2008 at 7:28 pm
abelle
 9 

Atul - You are always welcome here ;)

Procne - My fault. I should have made my one-sentence intro more visible ;)

June 27th, 2008 at 9:00 pm

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